I was watching the fault in the stars again, and i love its content and the plot. I learn a lot from it especially the fact that we are mortal being and we are bound to die one day. My main thoughts include,what will we/i be remembered with?
In this movie there is a part they act out the main character's funeral. His friends prepare a eulogy and he listens to what they will say on his funeral day. Absurd to some as it may sound, i find it wise, a way of introspection and retrospection.
It brings me to think about how i live my life currently, most specifically the kind of friend i am, classmate, daughter among others. Most of us live our lives searching for that person that will understand us, love us despite our imperfection, be there for us no matter what. It's like everyone's visualization of Mr/Mrs right,not in terms of spouses but also friends.
All my thoughts converge to a certain point "am i that friend, that person i want others to be?" Don't we all come to the point we conclude that and even write down how we will change.
We all realise this but how many times do we actually put it into serious consideration. Unfortunately we never attain a 10 and most times we get to a 7 and fall right back to a 1 or worse 0. Do we then sulk at the corner and give up on this mission? I doubt it.
We are imperfect in ourselves and no matter what we do or how much we dry we can never be perfect. We may conceal the flaws with plastics or cover the wounds with bandages or conceal the scar and even locket our skeletons in a closet no one will ever find. But the truth is there are there and we know they are.
I feel as though am not making sense but before i continue blabbing,my point is this. The strongest friendships,relationships,partnership and all kind of "-ships" are those that the both of you are aware of each other's flaws, skeletons, wounds.
It may be a cliche or a statement you will find in most literal books but believe me its true. Though hard to achieve more of painful, there are skeletons that really hurt to expose to anyone. Flaws that make you feel vulnerable, pains of yesterday that hurt more when you remember. Wounds that are hate the slightest exposure, but its the cost you have to pay to have a strong foundation.
Some of those scary stuff hidden in the unconscious attic that you never let anyone see, may even destroy the "-ship". Some may even make it forbidden and others make the other person run away. I know all too well, but its more painful looking at the other person's eyes and happiness over what you have and knowing that its all plastic, founded on endless lies. The truth will be the end of it.
Thus its better one friendship or relationship founded on truth than a thousand founded on lies. I prefer one genuine smile than ten plastic ones(pretence).
God himself also urges us to make up our minds what we want to be "..its either you are hot or cold"..." ..you cannot dine with God and demons at the same time".
So make up your mind what kind of person you want to be, how do you want to be remembered. And please plastic smiles and friendships do not go anywhere or profit anyone#just_sayin.
wow.
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