Tea time

I was watching a reality show in the morning and there was this guy that was starting a website called "tea time with quincy".
I know you are wondering what that means,relax i will expain to you.

It is meant for giving people a place to air out their issues,discuss them and help each other out.We can call it an online-shrink service or online-group counselling.

It got me thinking,in our times so many people lack platforms to discuss their issues.Most of us are actually surrounded by people who either feign affection(i call them plastics) or they are there for you only when you are rich or something.
Another lot are those that listen to you to have something to rumourmonger about.Believe me it is extremely annoying,others you trust with your dreams and they take them up as your own.And that is what our friendships have evolved to unfortunately.

Have you ever hit rock bottom and hit the peak of an emotional breakdown?And in that very moment you look at your contact list,searching for someone to talk to?
Most of the times you find someone that will hear you out.But what happens when you do not get someone who will really understand your state.
In some situations you relate better with someone who has been there-done that or gone through that.What about when you cannot find that person?
There is power in prayer i know but i tend to think some christians run to prayer as a cacoon from pain.Other just bottle up emotions convincing themselves all is well.
Espesially when you are a christian and you are struggling with something,and you are surrounded by judgemental guys.This behavior really pisses me off,for God is love and how can you be a believer and be so damn cold.
Forgive me if that offends you but truth be told i get tired of such people.Anywho may the Lord be with them and convict them,and help them learn what love is about(1corinthians13.)
That was not the aim of this post though,the point is if though you don't really get what someone is going through be there for them.Research about it if you could,ask around or something but make sure you are there for them.

Those replies that go like"you will be okay just believe" or "trust in God and you will be fine."Trust me i love God and trust him fully,but He gave you brains and a role as the victim's friend to help them understand the problem and get a solution.
We wonder why people look fine one minute and the other they commit suicide.If you have someone close to you that committed suicide,look into his/her relations.Were his/her friends there for him/her?
Statistics show that most people especially teenagers that kill themselves are those with a low self esteem.In reference to the reality show i was watching there was a girl whose mother was a celebrity and she was beautiful,curvaceous and all that.The daughter on the other hand was a plus size,living in the shadow of her mother depressed her.
I love this reference because it affects me somehow. Most times you find the friends that are suppose to be there for you,are those that tend to be the ones tossing those annoying comments that they think are funny.For instance:that 'cheche show' on Citizen T.V. is hosted by this lady(i cannot recall her name),and a friend of mine saw her and was like"Jarkie ona pia madame ka wewe wanaeza kua news presenters"
And i faked those smiles that fade within a second.You may think am paranoid but those comments do hurt their are not funny.Believe me am not victimizing myself either, am strong but other are not.In the present day we have been feed by images of the ideal size and when you as a friend keep on pointing at that out,you are not helping.
The bible points out that,the compassion you are shown by the Lord also show to others with equal measure.That is my point exactly,practise empathy and be there for your friends,even though you don't understand what they are going through.Just  by merely spending time with them helps though you won't say much.Do all you can for them,show your care in whatever way,have that tea talk with them.Don't push them away to look for the compassion elsewhere,they might not get it.

(I appreciate comments,corrections,appreciation and sharing my posts out.It helps me grow in my writing and broadens my thinking.Thank you and may the good God bless y'all)